Being a Transparent person is not as easy as it may sound. For some, it may have been their culture and religion while others may have lived a life of covering or wearing a mask due to the shame, embarrassment and hurt from others knowing their deep dark secret. There is a difference in being a transparent person versus the person who criticize themselves to take the pressure off from others doing it.
When you are hard on yourself or become your own worst critic, you really may have self-esteem issues and feel inadequate in your lifestyle or professional performance. When you become transparent you are real with the fact that you have flaws and will make mistakes and that you are okay with it. But if you have not considered it, here are 5 steps that can get you there.
Look within yourself: as you look deep within yourself, don’t try to measure up to someone else. There is only one being that you should be concerned with being in the image of and that is God. As you look within yourself, don’t look at the person you have been throughout life, that person is the one who got you to the point you are now.
Accept the struggle: the struggles we encounter in life is real and it deserves to be acknowledged as that. As humans we don’t always understand the impact of our decisions until we walk through it and then and only then do we process and make logic out of what has happened. Just don’t stay there, don’t allow yourself to dwell in that place. Gather the lessons and keep it moving.
Bury the shame: there is nothing good that can come from being shamed. It is not a feeling that God wants us to have and He demonstrated forgiveness through His Son, Jesus Christ. With shame is guilt, hiding, anger, resentment and so many other negative feelings. All these are designed to keep you weighted down.
Tell the story: the one step that will literally break you into being transparent is the ability to stop being silent. You can only release what’s being held inside you by getting it out. When you begin to talk about your issue, you are actually hearing it for the first time. It has moved from your mind and heart and has begun to regurgitate. You have also normalized your issue and start to realize that you are not the first to have this life experience and you certainly won’t be the last.
Connect: connecting with others who have been through similar situations will help you to see that you are not alone. The one behavior people have that increase depression is isolation. When you feel like you are alone in your issue, you begin to feel lonely and then you begin to separate yourself from others. Don’t kid yourself, there are people who may act as though they cannot relate to you but deep down inside they are wishing you can help them.